By Eron Vito Mazza
Eron Vito Mazza
It does not take a genius to know that we live in a world that demands more time, energy, and attention. We have jobs that like to increase our responsibilities, and we have personal lives that are always demanding more of us.
Boundaries are vital for our mental, physical, and spiritual health. The word “boundaries” is thrown around a lot in our culture. It denotes a line that you have that one should not cross in a metaphysical realm. We talk about having them, but at the same time, we are burned out, stressed out, and resentful.
Boundaries are limits we set with people in order to honor our needs. And there are two different types of boundaries we need in life to cultivate the peace and downtime we need to rejuvenate and rest. The first type of boundary is a physical boundary. Having physical boundaries helps us maintain our physical and mental health. Protecting these looks like saying “no” to overcommitment, making time for a little bit of R&R, sleep, and self-care. Physical boundaries are so important that not having them can reflect on your physical health. A lack of healthy boundaries can bring burnout, a weakened immune system, and unnecessary stress.
Spiritual boundaries safeguard our spiritual health, and are often overlooked. What does it look like to have spiritual boundaries you ask? Some examples are staying away from people that drain you. Limit your time around those people who just leave you feeling exhausted by being in their presence. Chisel some time out for meditation, or just doing something you love!
Boundaries are set based on what our limits are. This means we have to take some alone to reflect and recognize what makes us feel anxious, overwhelmed, and resentful. Journaling and just writing the Things that make us feel this way is one approach to really clarifying what those limits are and you can also go back and reference them later!
This next part is where the rubber meets the road. You need to clarify those boundaries for others in a kind, firm way.
When you start setting up those boundaries with the world, you will face resistance. You owe nobody an explanation of your limits. That’s where the magical word “no” comes in! It is a complete sentence after all.
The perks of having healthy, physical, and spiritual boundaries show up as a sense of peace emotionally and spiritually, and you’ll have a bit more of a spring in your step as your physical energy will be on the up and up! Having boundaries can also create chances to have relationships with depth and deep connection. You’ll also feel a lot more connected to yourself as well.
Remember, it’s not selfish to have boundaries. I bring this up because there is a chance that is what you’re going to hear whenever you begin to establish perimeter with people and with situations. I encourage you to start small, set some time aside to watch your favorite show, read your favorite book and be consistent with safeguarding that time. Once you’ve established that, begin setting limits in other areas of your life you feel needs limitations.
Reminder: honoring your limits helps you show up authentically for yourself and others.
Eron Vito Mazza is the author of The Living Lenormand, and is the host of the podcast The Witching hour with Eron Mazza.
